Facebook has many downfalls. It can be petty, it can be bitchy, and it can be a get-out clause to dealing with people in person, but in essence, all Facebook does is allow you to keep track of all the people in your life simultaneously and much more easily, albeit in a more informal way. And if anything of the digital age is claiming to aid us (iPad’s and Ping are definitely not aids to our existence as Apple are so desperate to convince us), at least Facebook can be seen as fairly commendable, at least to an extent in my eyes.
And so when you view Facebook in its purest form (an informal way of keeping track of the people in your life simultaneously), it makes it feel all the more splendid when someone deletes you off their Facebook. This is happening to me pretty frequently now; I keep getting deleted by people for no fucking reason, or at least for no apparent reason at least. And these aren’t just random people I don’t know, these are people I’ve knew for years, always gotten along with and never fallen out with (besides, I never add people on Facebook that I don’t know, unless we’ve got a decent amount of mutual friends).
For me, if someone deletes me off Facebook, particularly someone I’ve knew for a long time, this strongly implies that they just don’t want anything to do with me anymore. It means they don’t want to keep track of me anymore, and essentially want me out of their life. Of course, I’m obviously not likening Facebook to life. But Facebook has a purpose, as mentioned, and practically being kicked out of people’s lives at the click of a button isn’t something that I can let go over my head.
Years ago, people would ignore the calls of whoever they least desired, just completely blank them, or maybe they'd have to tell them straight (imagine that). Nowadays, in this horrible, callous digital age, you just click the “unfriend” button and they’re gone. And they can discover that you’ve done this when they go on your profile just to see how you’re doing and it says “add as a friend” at the top of the page. Oh right, I’ve got to reacquire this person because maybe I’m not living up to their standards, or maybe because I’ve reached a point in my life where I’m starting to feel more comfortable with who I am and feel like I can express myself more freely and it looks like it comes with a price. That feels really nice inside.
I hear you, I just got deleted for no apparent reason by someone I was friends for over a year, I used to play Zynga games (Frontierville, Farmville) with that friend (a Married Woman by the way) but once I got tired of those games I blocked them. (a couple of months ago)
ReplyDeleteOkay maybe I was no longer useful for her, but what is weird is that she has a long list of random friends about 600, and most of them don't even play games.
So why give me the worst friend award, when I used to be more helpful than most of her current friends?
Plus I never bothered her!
She deleted me moments ago, I was instantly warned by the unfriend app, for my disappointment...
Not even a word, it was like I never existed, it
is simply rude and distasteful to discard people like they are toilet paper, specially after a year :(
I felt so cheated...and I had to google a post on the matter.
I know most probably don't agree, but Facebook should change the rules about adding friends.
What I mean by that is Facebook should be open world and users only would share what they want with all users, and have a "limited" favorite list of users to share their private stuff, but no one would ever know if they belong to that list or even if the user has a favorite list active.
The “add as a friend” thing is awful!
I know some people that are depressed for losing friends everyday without knowing why, and they are losing their self-esteem.
Facebook should be a social gathering not a depression pit.